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More compensation!

Would the world be a better place if we found (and made) it easier to compensate others?

It’s a beautiful Saturday and you’re invited to a barbecue. The hosts have a reputation for ensuring memorable occasions, with superb food and eye-catching decorations in the garden. In short, they will, as always, have put in a lot of effort. It’s the kind of event for which you’d actually pay good money. Yet you don’t: you will not arrive at the garden party, informing your friends that you and your spouse have just transferred £70 to their account. You will instead take three nice bottles of wine and a bunch of flowers.

We seem to make a strong distinction between our interactions in the market domain and those in the social domain. In one we pay money in return for goods and services, while in the other we either do stuff for free — like refereeing a football game at our children’s school or helping out a colleague fixing her car — or we reciprocate in kind, rather than at market rates. And never the twain shall meet. Or should they?

Compensation in international politics

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A bag of money for your backstop (image: Marco Verch CC BY)

Does the backstop have a price — for either side? That is, would the EU be willing to abandon the backstop go in return for suitable compensation from the UK, or would the UK be willing to accept it if the EU put money on the table? In a sense, the backstop is in the ‘social’ domain, but between countries instead of between people. Direct cash transfers (the ‘market’ domain) between countries to settle a disagreement outside the purely financial domain are very uncommon, if not non-existent. But that in itself is not enough reason to dismiss it.

As Prof. Caplan says: “If this were any normal business deal, this straightforward path would be on the tip of every Brexiteer’s tongue.” For example, if you need a certain shipment delivered tomorrow rather than on the normal 3-day schedule, offering to pay more can usually get it rushed through. But of course, Prof. Caplan also knows that politics is not like business. Whoever is the next British prime minister, he is not even remotely likely to consider the suggested approach. Caplan ascribes this unwillingness to foolish pride (“we’re not selling out!”) and wishful thinking (“of course, they will agree to our demands”).

Legal basis

But this is still post hoc compensation, offering amends for a loss already incurred. What of truly negotiated transactions? At the end of last week, The Times reported on the use of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) in a case of alleged sexual assault and sexual harassment. Two women received substantial financial sums in an out-of-court settlement in which they also withdrew their claims and signed an NDA. Arguably, part of the compensation could well relate to the moral loss the women would have suffered at the hands of the alleged attacker. But another part is certainly related to not taking matters to an employment tribunal: it shows what it was worth for the accused not to be taken to court, and what it was worth for the women to abandon the case and not talk to the media. (One can wonder whether NDAs are appropriate in cases like this, or even whether there is a fundamental difference between this kind of situation and blackmail, but that is a different discussion. Here, we are talking about voluntary transactions in which one party compensates another party for (not) acting in a certain way.)

Compensation at home

But there are many other situations in a household where one person gains, with the burden falling on another one. Imagine, for example, one spouse accompanying the other to a work event, while they’d much rather stay home and read a book, instead of making small talk with strangers all evening. Or a parent taxiing, week after week, one of the children to karate while they’d much rather be watching live football, only because Junior cannot be bothered to fix the leaky tire on her bike.

Maybe we assume too readily that such action form part of the implicit social contract in a household: it’s the kind of thing we just do for each other, fuelled by intrinsic motivation. But what can we truly, unconditionally expect from others in our household? This is a question that rarely gets asked, or even considered.

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Would you happily accompany your spouse to this office party? (image: Split The Kipper CC BY)

Perhaps we believe that overall reciprocity should take care of it (“you accompany me to my work do, I will come with you next time you visit your parents”). The trouble is that, even if that were the case (which is by no means necessarily so), in the moment itself the future reward may seem too vague and too distant to outweigh the sacrifice that is being made. Sometimes it can feel as if that sacrifice is not valued by the beneficiary, and as if one party is taken for granted by the other.

Of course, in a household, financial compensation is unlikely to be the right approach. Paying your spouse to join you at your employer’s Christmas gala seems, well, weird. But there is an implicit market in households where favours, chores and more generally time and effort can be traded. It is perfectly possible to agree on a suitable compensation for the person making the sacrifice.

And the beauty, at least in some situations, is that it can clearly work both ways. What would it take for one spouse to accompany the other? Or alternatively, what would it take for the other spouse to go to the work do on their own? Even in the case of the lazy teenager, it is reasonable that the parent would be prepared to offer something in return for not feeling morally obliged to play taxi.

If you feel that bargaining and offering compensation in the household still feel a bit improper, consider the remarkable intangible benefit it could produce. In a conventional setup, using the work do one last time, there will always be one miserable, maybe even resentful spouse: either the one forced to make a solo appearance and cook up some story why they are on their own, or the one that is there under moral duress. With agreed compensation, no such aggro: it’d be a pleasure to fabricate a reason why the other half could not make it, or it’d be a joy to spend time chitchatting to your spouse’s colleagues all evening. No long faces and regrets the days after.

It may not work in international politics, but a bit of diplomatically arranged compensation can certainly contribute to a more efficient and more pleasant household.

Originally published at http://koenfucius.wordpress.com on July 12, 2019.

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